So who’s the girl….?
This happens alot to my partner and I, though I think generally these days, more in the background noise than right smack dab in our faces. I’ve always found this whole topic very disconcerting, and I think about it probably more than I should. My girl would say I think about alot of things probably more than I should, and she’s probably right. “How to stop thinking?” I ponder aloud.
Anyway, the point here is that even in a lesbian couple, it’s assumed that someone is “male”, and someone is “female”. This seems pretty ridiculous to me, when the whole point of being a HOMOsexual couple is that you want and desire a partner of the same sex, same meaning, here, not surprisingly, same. As in, biologically the same. Not different. Not hetero. Not straight. Les. Dyke. Queer. Homo.
So what makes a girl a girl, and a girl not a girl? Do all girls have long hair and wear make up? When is a girl less of a girl? Does a pair of converse and jeans magically transport her to a non-girl world, where long curls and heels are not allowed or desired (except maybe in a partner)? And those long haired feminine types, are they meek and mild mannered pinnacles of grace and patience? Is that what femininity is?
I admit to being very feminine in appearance. I admit, and with no shamed face, but a big wide grin, that I own lots of shoes, and many of them are heels. I revel in silk scarves, a good eye shadow collection, and 20 different colors to varnish my well manicured (but short, I might add) nails. I can’t catch a ball to save my life. But I also am one of the most aggressive females I know, and will fight (a man or woman, it makes no difference to me) if I feel threatened or demeaned. I read avidly, on a wide variety of subjects, and pride myself on my knowledge of cultural mores and history. Does that make me less feminine?